Assault | CIS https://stopdvsa.org Creating positive social change through interrupting the cycle of violence. Fri, 28 Apr 2023 16:33:40 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 https://i0.wp.com/stopdvsa.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/cropped-CIS-FB-Logo.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 Assault | CIS https://stopdvsa.org 32 32 193659996 A Lesson from the G.O.A.T- Overcoming Fear and Speaking Out https://stopdvsa.org/a-lesson-from-the-goat/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=a-lesson-from-the-goat Mon, 26 Jul 2021 04:30:00 +0000 https://stopdvsa.org/?p=4565

A Lesson from the G.O.A.T- Overcoming Fear and Speaking Out

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Some things are more important than titles and medals- confidence and self-respect

The Tokyo 2020 Olympics are happening right now and while the world’s eyes are on one incredibly talented member of the U.S. Women’s Gymnastics team, there’s another reason to find inspiration from this amazing young woman.

 

Simone Biles, honorably given the title of “Greatest Of All Time”, stands not just as an Olympic champion, but a champion for sexual assault victims. Her story came forward in 2018 in a shocking movement that stunned the world, but for those in the sexual abuse and trauma communities, it was a story they were all too familiar with.

 

In hearing the stories from survivors, advocates, and even other celebrities impacted by sexual abuse, there is a constant voice that continues to speak out letting others know that the time is always right to speak up. Change is possible, and change will occur but only if those who are willing to fight for it remain dedicated to living this truth.

 

Overcoming the fear, and finding the courage to speak up is one of the biggest obstacles that survivors face. The initial struggle to tell their story, and share it with the right person is part of the process. Especially if you are in a position of high influence and notable achievement, this cannot be an easy discussion to have. In past interviews, Biles claimed she was afraid to talk to others about what happened to her, and even her family noticed that some was wrong- but she neglected to discuss it. Finally when Biles came forward in 2018, her words became an inspiring beacon of hope to those who had also been tormented by sexual assault and sexual abuse.

 

Her journey to move past the pain and frustration of her trauma only pushed her further into performance and passion for gymnastics. She even remarked in a recent interview, that she felt she HAD to come back as proof of being a survivor and to show the world what it means to overcome those fears.

 

Defining confidence and protecting your own self-respect are two of the best ways to rise above your own experiences, and show the world that you are unstoppable. Your voice cannot be silenced, and you must take the steps to ensure those responsible are held accountable.  Biles has continued to pursue her dreams, and is making sure that her life does not remain empty and without joy. She has found a way to keep striving and thriving- an important message for all survivors.

 

Once you have been able to successfully make your story known and share it with the others- your next step is to continue to fulfill your personal legacy by moving forward. Utilize your talents whether it’s balancing beams, perfecting culinary delights, or teaching the next generation- do not let the past define your future. Instead, let it inspire you!

 

If the G.O.A.T. can turn heads by showing the world how hard work, perseverance, and commitment can impact an Olympic icon, imagine what your story can do to inspire thousands of individuals to put their fear aside, speak up, and achieve more. Believe in yourself, and the ability to comeback from obstacles (no matter how difficult), and the Gold will always be yours.

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The Discussion on Social Violence- Why Our Kids Need to Understand What’s Happening https://stopdvsa.org/the-discussion-on-social-violence-why-our-kids-need-to-understand-whats-happening/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-discussion-on-social-violence-why-our-kids-need-to-understand-whats-happening Sat, 05 Jun 2021 12:08:11 +0000 https://stopdvsa.org/?p=4550

The Discussion on Social Violence- Why Our Kids Need to Understand What’s Happening

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Recent events and tensions across the nation are forcing parents to ask the question, “do my children realize what’s really going on?”

Children are so vulnerable to what they see and hear. As they grow and develop their own personalities, skills, and interests- every parent wants to see their child grow up in a responsible manner. As part of growing up, however, children are going to witness things that will shape the person they will become- for better or worse. What happened on January 6th at our nation’s capitol was a strong reminder that our children need to be guided in learning appropriate behavior, respect of others, and that freedom does not justify destruction.

 

Like many of the events that took place throughout 2020, these children have been witnessing a series of moments that have shocked, surprised, and terrified people from all walks of life. As parents, educators, caretakers, mentors, and advocates, we need to help children understand that this kind of violent reaction is unacceptable. We’re not telling kids how to think or what to think, but rather we need to put it as simply this: It’s ok to disagree on something, but you must respect others the same way you should respect yourself.

 

Social Violence is a topic that is often passed up, until it actually happens. If your child starts asking questions about what they saw or heard, don’t ignore it or brush it off. You don’t want to sugar-coat the subject, but rather discuss it in a more direct tone. Take this opportunity to have open conversations with them and discuss how seeing those images made them feel. By allowing them the opportunity to express their feelings verbally, they’re far less likely to physically exhibit those actions on someone else. Again, children are vulnerable and each child will interpret the situation differently based on their surroundings and initial cognitive perspective.

 

When speaking to your children about any of these events, state the facts and acknowledge the rules. This can turn into an informative conversation about other topics they may be curious about: law enforcement, the constitution, guidelines, etc. The other side of this kind of conversation is to teach children about respect and how to remain peaceful while expressing their opposition on a subject. Putting the conversation in this perspective will helps kids to know that they can still have an opinion but do not need to act hastily about it. Let them know it’s ok to talk to others with a different view, maybe they’ll learn something from the discussion. However, it is not ok to damage someone’s property in order to get a message across- at that point they need to understand they’ve broken a rule and are in the wrong.

 

Social and Emotional Learning is vital in a child’s development, but it is also crucial that they are being given a real-world understanding of why these events happened. Engage in solid, meaningful talks with them, not to judge or sway them into one opinion versus the other. Remember that the idea is to express to them that some actions do have consequences and that they will meet others who have different views than them- the key is to show respect and maintain peaceful, civil values.

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Coping with the Aftermath of Sexual Assault https://stopdvsa.org/coping-with-the-aftermath-of-sexual-assault/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=coping-with-the-aftermath-of-sexual-assault Fri, 30 Apr 2021 02:30:00 +0000 https://stopdvsa.org/?p=4517

Coping with the Aftermath of Sexual Assault

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Discover how to rebuild and empower your life moving forward

The trauma that can be felt as a result of sexual assault is one of the most painful and difficult feelings to overcome. It’s a sense of feeling broken, violated, and incomplete. Recovering and healing takes time, but throughout the process you begin to regain control and feel a sense of self-worth.

What is important is that you take each step slow and along the way find new avenues to channel your emotions while you try to find balance and feel secure again. Our advocates, and other trauma professionals often recognize that some survivors struggle with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), Anxiety, and Depression. This is not uncommon, and while these after-effects can create brutal strains on everything from relationships to workplace performance, it is critical to seek out professional counsel.

Coming to terms with your experience, and releasing the thoughts of shame, helplessness, and blame are some of the most defining moments you’ll have in the recovery process. Do not let the past hold you back from the happiness that is waiting for you in the rest of your life. From the pain and darkness, you can rise into a new vision of strength and courage.

Here’s a few steps you can utilize in your journey to rebuild your self-esteem, regain confidence, and express your feelings:

  • Don’t be afraid to talk about what happened to you. Find someone you can trust to talk to when you need it or even consider joining a support group where you can make a difference for others, just as they can help you too.
  • Come to terms with your feelings of guilt and shame. What happened to you was not your fault, and any other misconceptions that may be running through your head are simply tiny voices that you don’t need to listen to. When you keep questioning yourself about the why’s and what if’s, it’s only going to lead you into more distress.
  • Be prepared for traumatic triggers. Your body and your mind will occasionally bring back flashbacks and upsetting memories if prompted. This can come in a variety of forms, sometimes without notice, but over time (and with a little help) you can train yourself to help manage those tensions if you feel them coming on. Research different soothing and calming techniques to help control your mind and body before it overwhelms you.
  • Pay close attention to your physical and emotional well-being. Don’t try to numb the pain through unconventional outlets like drugs or alcohol. Instead take unique measures to empower yourself through movement and energy. Many people find activities like meditation, yoga, dancing, or even cardio as a way to channel that anxiety into momentum that is great exercise for the body and soul.
  • Continue to engage in socialization. Stay connected with friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors who can continue to be a positive, and supportive force in your healing. Find the joy in reconnecting with people who share some of the interests and dreams as you, because that kind of inspiration will only strengthen your recovery.
  • Don’t avoid self-care! Keeping up with good nutrition and exercise is the best way to help your body refresh every single day. Make sure you get good, healthy rest too because your body still needs that time to relax. Don’t let the anxiety of the past stand in the way of a bright, healthy future for you.

These are just a small sample of some of the steps you can take in your own path to feeling whole again. Sexual Assault, like many traumatic events, changes you and while today you may realize just how much hurt there is in that pain, there is also a spark of hope waiting to be revealed. Coping with the aftermath of sexual assault is not an easy adjustment, and it can have lifelong effects on the type of person you are- but you cannot allow it to define you or your future. You don’t have to hide it. Instead let it motivate you and uplift your spirit to become so much more.

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5 Things You Can Do This April #SAAM21 https://stopdvsa.org/5-things-you-can-do-this-april-saam21/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=5-things-you-can-do-this-april-saam21 Wed, 31 Mar 2021 15:38:19 +0000 http://box5855.temp.domains/~katbrohe/CIS/?p=4344 Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month is right around the corner! You can make a difference by joining with RAINN this April in the fight to end sexual violence. More than a quarter of a million people are sexually assaulted each year in the U.S, but you have the power to make a difference:

1. Reach Out to a Loved One. It’s never too late to let a survivor in your life know that you care. Learn some simple tips about how to be there. The National Sexual Assault Hotline can also provide you and your loved one with confidential help, 24/7: 1-800-656-HOPE and online.rainn.org

2. Make Your Voice Heard. Congress needs to hear from you about your support for legislation to improve the criminal justice system, support survivors and bring sexual predators to justice. Visit the RAINN Action Center and contact your Member of Congress about legislation that is important to survivors, like renewing the Debbie Smith Act. It could be as easy as tweeting with @RAINN #ActWithRAINN.

3. Volunteer. Looking to donate your time? There are so many ways you can get involved in your community: Volunteer for your local rape crisis center or the Online Hotline or get involved on your campus.

4. Get Social. With a “share” or “RT” you can educate your networks about sexual violence prevention and recovery! Stay tuned to RAINN’s social media for content that we’ll be sharing all month long about how you can make a difference: FacebookTwitterInstagramYouTube and Pinterest. Tag your posts with #SAAM to follow the conversation.

5. Join the #Speak4RAINN15 campaign. You can help survivors by sharing about the 15th anniversary of “Speak,” the acclaimed novel by Laurie Halse Anderson. Bookstores will offer incentives and participants can win prizes. Learn more here.

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Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-464-8340

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1014 North Elm Street
Ottumwa, IA 52501
Office Phone:
641-683-1750

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Protective Orders

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What is a civil protective order?

It’s a document issued by a court to help you protect yourself from someone who is abusing or harassing you. 

What can a civil protective order do?

Every state is different, but in many places, a protective order can require an abuser to:

  • Stay away from you at home, at work and anywhere you go. A protective order can also prohibit the abuser from contacting you by phone, fax, mail, email or through another person.

  • Move out if you live together. You can ask that a law enforcement officer be on the scene when the abuser collects their belongings to ensure your safety.

  • Give you temporary custody of your children. This generally lasts until the court makes a final decision about custody. 

But a protective order can’t guarantee your safety.

An abuser can be arrested for violating the order, but it is not always possible to prevent a violation.

My partner and I are a same-sex couple. Can I still get a civil protective order?

Yes. In Iowa, individuals qualify for a civil protective order if they are married, divorced, or lived together at the time of the assault, or have lived together within one year before the assault occurred, or in an intimate relationship (significant romantic involvement that does not have to include sexual involvement).

Who can file for a sexual abuse civil protective order?

An adult seeking civil protection for himself or herself, or an adult seeking protection on behalf of their child who is under the age of 18, or an adult seeking protection on behalf of a ward. You or the person you’re seeking protection from must live in Iowa.  

How do I get a civil protective order?

For domestic violence civil protective orders contact our Sister Program: Rural Domestic Abuse Program 

Advocates can answer questions like:

  • What a protective order can and can’t do for you.

  • What procedure to follow for getting a protective order in your area.

  • Where and how to fill out the forms to file.

  • An advocate can help you collect and provide details of the abusive treatment you suffered.

  • After the order is filed you will have a hearing, an advocate can be present to support you through the court process.

What happens next?

The abuser is served a copy of the petition for the protective order. The court will schedule a hearing and order law enforcement to deliver the protective order and hearing date to the Defendant. The hearing will be held in 5 – 15 days after you submit your petition to the Clerk of Court.

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