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Eyes And Ears Open- A Snapshot Guide For Teachers To Recognize Suspected Child Abuse

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School is starting up again, here’s what our teachers and educators need to be aware of as students make the return to the classroom

In March of 2020, our world began to turn upside down as businesses began closing doors, events started cancelling, and school made the unprecedented shift to virtual and hybrid learning models. It was a time of confusion, frustration, and uncertainty for all- but for some another word came to mind: fear (and not just fear of COVID-19).

 

With families being forced to stay inside and transition to learning and working from home, there was a great fear of abuse at home occurring with little to no awareness being noticed. Especially for our children, this caused a lot of mental and physical trauma that went unseen due to the quarantines and stay-at-home orders. Now that schools are reopening their doors and families are making plans to send their kids back to school in-person, let’s share a few important notes to help our teachers and education professionals be aware and alert for this upcoming school year.

 

The Iowa Department of Human Services notes the following in establishing motive to investigate suspected child abuse:

  • The victim is a child (anyone under the age of 18)
  • The child is subjected to one or more of the categories of child abuse defined in Iowa Code section 232.68:
    • Physical abuse
    • Mental injury
    • Sexual abuse
    • Child prostitution
    • Presence of illegal drugs in a child’s body
    • Denial of critical care
    • Dangerous substance
    • Bestiality in the presence of a child
    • Allows access to a registered sex offender
    • Allows access to obscene materials
    • Child Sex Trafficking

Teachers should carefully observe behaviors and physical signs that could potentially be linked to any of these categories. These signs are often discussed in more detail through credited trainings for schools and leaders, but these are a few of the most recognized signals:

  • bruises, unusual marks, and cuts
  • reoccurring broken bones or other major physical injuries
  • burns (regardless of location or size)
  • unusual discretion around adults
  • missing class often
  • accident-proneness
  • inability to focus or pay attention
  • poor academic performance
  • increased agitation or anxiety
  • hanging around school before and after class
  • poor peer relationships

 

Our educators are trained to have best interests when it comes to a child’s well-being, so it is critically important for them to be active in these situations. In fact, did you know that teachers in all 50 states are required to report reasonable suspicions by law? If you are employed by a school district or other facility, talk to your administrators about how to report these suspicions, and ensure you are following all legal guidelines and school protocols.

 

Make sure other teachers and child care staff in your district/program complete any necessary trainings, certifications, and workshops pertaining to child abuse. These are often essential requirements to ensure all individuals are aware of current regulations, procedures, and measures to protect the child. Keep everyone up to date on trends, warning signs, and active steps for awareness. Taking those extra steps in professional development will not only benefit your educational experience, but it will provide concerned families peace of mind knowing their children’s safety is in caring and knowledgeable hands.

 

Prevention is going to be the biggest advocate in your district’s ability to aide in the efforts against abuse. Consider bringing in advocates and training consultants from government agencies or other abuse survivor-targeted groups to educate your staff on signs, legal obligations, and intervention strategies. These sessions can be very proactive with parents and legal guardians as well. Prevention is a community-involved initiative, so having the support branches to keep everyone informed and engaged is a benefit not only for the school, but for everyone.

 

To our teachers, child care and educational professionals, the main message here is that we strongly urge you to be engaged in connecting with all community tools, government agencies, and local nonprofits. These organizations are here to guide you and will provide you with all of the information you need for recognition, awareness, and action against abuse. Fulfill your requirements and obligations to ensure you know the steps to take if you suspect any abusive activity with a child in your class or group. This upcoming school year, don’t just focus on grades- add awareness to your own curriculum!

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The Discussion on Social Violence- Why Our Kids Need to Understand What’s Happening https://stopdvsa.org/the-discussion-on-social-violence-why-our-kids-need-to-understand-whats-happening/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-discussion-on-social-violence-why-our-kids-need-to-understand-whats-happening Sat, 05 Jun 2021 12:08:11 +0000 https://stopdvsa.org/?p=4550

The Discussion on Social Violence- Why Our Kids Need to Understand What’s Happening

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Recent events and tensions across the nation are forcing parents to ask the question, “do my children realize what’s really going on?”

Children are so vulnerable to what they see and hear. As they grow and develop their own personalities, skills, and interests- every parent wants to see their child grow up in a responsible manner. As part of growing up, however, children are going to witness things that will shape the person they will become- for better or worse. What happened on January 6th at our nation’s capitol was a strong reminder that our children need to be guided in learning appropriate behavior, respect of others, and that freedom does not justify destruction.

 

Like many of the events that took place throughout 2020, these children have been witnessing a series of moments that have shocked, surprised, and terrified people from all walks of life. As parents, educators, caretakers, mentors, and advocates, we need to help children understand that this kind of violent reaction is unacceptable. We’re not telling kids how to think or what to think, but rather we need to put it as simply this: It’s ok to disagree on something, but you must respect others the same way you should respect yourself.

 

Social Violence is a topic that is often passed up, until it actually happens. If your child starts asking questions about what they saw or heard, don’t ignore it or brush it off. You don’t want to sugar-coat the subject, but rather discuss it in a more direct tone. Take this opportunity to have open conversations with them and discuss how seeing those images made them feel. By allowing them the opportunity to express their feelings verbally, they’re far less likely to physically exhibit those actions on someone else. Again, children are vulnerable and each child will interpret the situation differently based on their surroundings and initial cognitive perspective.

 

When speaking to your children about any of these events, state the facts and acknowledge the rules. This can turn into an informative conversation about other topics they may be curious about: law enforcement, the constitution, guidelines, etc. The other side of this kind of conversation is to teach children about respect and how to remain peaceful while expressing their opposition on a subject. Putting the conversation in this perspective will helps kids to know that they can still have an opinion but do not need to act hastily about it. Let them know it’s ok to talk to others with a different view, maybe they’ll learn something from the discussion. However, it is not ok to damage someone’s property in order to get a message across- at that point they need to understand they’ve broken a rule and are in the wrong.

 

Social and Emotional Learning is vital in a child’s development, but it is also crucial that they are being given a real-world understanding of why these events happened. Engage in solid, meaningful talks with them, not to judge or sway them into one opinion versus the other. Remember that the idea is to express to them that some actions do have consequences and that they will meet others who have different views than them- the key is to show respect and maintain peaceful, civil values.

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3 Ways to Stabilize Mental Friction for Survivors https://stopdvsa.org/3-ways-to-stabilize-mental-friction-for-survivors/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=3-ways-to-stabilize-mental-friction-for-survivors Thu, 06 May 2021 20:19:46 +0000 https://stopdvsa.org/?p=4527

3 Ways to Stabilize Mental Friction for Survivors

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Your mental wellness is just as important as your physical wellness- stop putting it off

Most people don’t consider their mental health as a priority, but everyone should take it seriously. The body is a wonderous thing, and our minds are precious gifts that must be handled delicately. For those who’ve experienced traumatic situations, the lingering trauma can have many negative impacts on the mind. In this article, let’s take a look at three different ways you can help create balance and stability in your life through mental healing.

 

Channeling Your Emotions Through Creativity

One of the most awe-inspiring methods is to connect with your creative side. This can include everything from songwriting to painting or even fashion design. The fact is everyone has a story to tell, so by reorganizing that energy into a talent that others can appreciate, you can set the stage expressing your emotions while building a form of success on top of it. Whatever you chose to create is a symbol of your journey, strength, and ability to overcome anything. These activities help to engage your mind and can force to you establish a goal that tells others what you want to say or portray. Don’t be afraid to connect with and unleash your creativity juices.

 

Refocus with a Positive Mindset

You know the saying, “Think Positive”, and yes a lot of times it’s easier said than done. However, it can be done! The idea here is to force yourself into saying positive feelings of action. Phrases like “Yes, I do matter” or “I am worthy of this”, and “I am strong” make all the difference. But don’t just say it, BELIEVE IT! By doing this, you are making major moves to silence the inner critic and reaffirm your mind for uplifting and empowering thoughts. Put aside the negative thoughts and disruptions haunting your mental health, and instead push for more positive influences to motivate you. Some of the actions you can do to build a more positive mind can include writing your thoughts into a journal for expression and relief. You can also try joining local support groups where your feelings and thoughts can be shared with others, while they motivate you in return. Remember that your mental distress is not a punishment, so it is ok to feel sad or anxious, but you cannot let it consume you. A mind filled with positivity and enthusiasm is the most rejuvenating way to achieve mental stability.

 

Talk About It

This may be one of the most uncomfortable methods, but it is also one of the simplest paths to maintaining a healthy mind in the healing process and beyond. Don’t hide behind your feelings, talk about it with someone you can confide in.  We mentioned earlier about getting involved in support groups, but you can also reach out to advocates or trained professionals for guidance in moving forward. You may find others who share some of the same pains and struggles as you, well guess what? There’s strength in numbers. Talking to others about what you are feeling can aid in expressing those deep, complicated emotions you may not know how to handle. Try to put all of your fears, doubts, and worries into a positive conversation by talking about how your experience changed you. What do you want to do moving forward? How can you take your experience and use it to make you stronger? Remember the key is focusing on the positive aspects- talking gives your mind the healing it needs to declutter and calm the noise.

 

We’ve given you three incredible strategies to help you weed out the negativity and commit to a healthier mental state. The key-take away here is that as you continue to heal and rebuild your life past the traumatic experiences, it is important that you give all of the care you can in maintaining positive mental wellness. Your mind is the source of experiencing new ways to find joy in life, give it all the T-L-C it deserves!

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Coping with the Aftermath of Sexual Assault https://stopdvsa.org/coping-with-the-aftermath-of-sexual-assault/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=coping-with-the-aftermath-of-sexual-assault Fri, 30 Apr 2021 02:30:00 +0000 https://stopdvsa.org/?p=4517

Coping with the Aftermath of Sexual Assault

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Discover how to rebuild and empower your life moving forward

The trauma that can be felt as a result of sexual assault is one of the most painful and difficult feelings to overcome. It’s a sense of feeling broken, violated, and incomplete. Recovering and healing takes time, but throughout the process you begin to regain control and feel a sense of self-worth.

What is important is that you take each step slow and along the way find new avenues to channel your emotions while you try to find balance and feel secure again. Our advocates, and other trauma professionals often recognize that some survivors struggle with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), Anxiety, and Depression. This is not uncommon, and while these after-effects can create brutal strains on everything from relationships to workplace performance, it is critical to seek out professional counsel.

Coming to terms with your experience, and releasing the thoughts of shame, helplessness, and blame are some of the most defining moments you’ll have in the recovery process. Do not let the past hold you back from the happiness that is waiting for you in the rest of your life. From the pain and darkness, you can rise into a new vision of strength and courage.

Here’s a few steps you can utilize in your journey to rebuild your self-esteem, regain confidence, and express your feelings:

  • Don’t be afraid to talk about what happened to you. Find someone you can trust to talk to when you need it or even consider joining a support group where you can make a difference for others, just as they can help you too.
  • Come to terms with your feelings of guilt and shame. What happened to you was not your fault, and any other misconceptions that may be running through your head are simply tiny voices that you don’t need to listen to. When you keep questioning yourself about the why’s and what if’s, it’s only going to lead you into more distress.
  • Be prepared for traumatic triggers. Your body and your mind will occasionally bring back flashbacks and upsetting memories if prompted. This can come in a variety of forms, sometimes without notice, but over time (and with a little help) you can train yourself to help manage those tensions if you feel them coming on. Research different soothing and calming techniques to help control your mind and body before it overwhelms you.
  • Pay close attention to your physical and emotional well-being. Don’t try to numb the pain through unconventional outlets like drugs or alcohol. Instead take unique measures to empower yourself through movement and energy. Many people find activities like meditation, yoga, dancing, or even cardio as a way to channel that anxiety into momentum that is great exercise for the body and soul.
  • Continue to engage in socialization. Stay connected with friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors who can continue to be a positive, and supportive force in your healing. Find the joy in reconnecting with people who share some of the interests and dreams as you, because that kind of inspiration will only strengthen your recovery.
  • Don’t avoid self-care! Keeping up with good nutrition and exercise is the best way to help your body refresh every single day. Make sure you get good, healthy rest too because your body still needs that time to relax. Don’t let the anxiety of the past stand in the way of a bright, healthy future for you.

These are just a small sample of some of the steps you can take in your own path to feeling whole again. Sexual Assault, like many traumatic events, changes you and while today you may realize just how much hurt there is in that pain, there is also a spark of hope waiting to be revealed. Coping with the aftermath of sexual assault is not an easy adjustment, and it can have lifelong effects on the type of person you are- but you cannot allow it to define you or your future. You don’t have to hide it. Instead let it motivate you and uplift your spirit to become so much more.

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Creating a Safety Plan and Preparing to Use It https://stopdvsa.org/creating-a-safety-plan-and-preparing-to-use-it/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=creating-a-safety-plan-and-preparing-to-use-it Thu, 29 Apr 2021 16:53:02 +0000 https://stopdvsa.org/?p=4499

Creating a Safety Plan and Preparing to Use It

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Take the steps in knowing how you can get to a safe place before and during a violent situation

Safety plans serve as an essential guide to find respite in a violent situation. It’s important that you develop this resource and keep it in a safe place where it can only be accessible to you. This safety plan should outline actions that are customized to your situation and need to reflect various areas of consideration such as your physical safety, emotional safety, financial safety, and any legal necessities.

Let’s breakdown some of the key planning points you can utilize in your safety planning arrangements:

 Before the Situation
• Create an emergency bag for yourself (and your kids if applicable) that includes essentials like money, an extra set of keys, important documents, and clothes. Then keep the bag at a trusted friend or relative’s house for safekeeping or choose a carefully selected hiding spot in your home.
• Introduce a secret “safe word or phrase” that can be used to communicate when you need immediate help and teach it to your kids. This can be extremely helpful, especially if communicating with texts or on social media.
• Ensure everyone knows how and when to call 9-1-1.
• Familiarize yourself with every door, window, staircase, elevator, and fire escape in your area so you can quickly and safely get out.
• Notify trusted neighbors to be alert if they see or hear suspicious activity.
• Practice, Practice, Practice!

During the Situation
• Use your judgement and do what is needed to keep you and your family safe. Call 9-1-1 at the earliest opportunity and get out.
• Grab your emergency bag (if it is at home) and quickly get to your car. (*Consider parking your car in a position where you can drive away quickly because every second matters.)
• Seek shelter at a close friend’s house, home of a family member, or community shelter as quickly as possible. (*In your practice and preparation stages- think about the quickest routes to your destination or unusual routes where the attacker may not suspect where you are going)

Using Awareness In Public
• Speak to your supervisor at work about your situation. Talk with security personnel and any of your trusted work colleagues who can offer support to you.
• Consider asking your employer to screen calls of your work phone for data security.
• Be vigilant in your normal routines and activities- consider shopping at different stores, take different routes home, or consider using public transportation if possible.
• Get assistance in creating a new bank account at a different bank where you can start clean slate, and no one will have access except you.
• Keep all emergency contact information easily accessible on your phone- add STOPDVSA to your speed dial list: 1-800-270-1620

Take every opportunity to develop your own customized safety plan so that you know what to do and where to go when your situation escalates out of control. If you need help in organizing and creating a safety plan for you and your family, please contact our advocates who are available 24/7 to assist. You can chat with them online right now or call our free hotline at 1-800-270-1620.

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5 Things You Can Do This April #SAAM21 https://stopdvsa.org/5-things-you-can-do-this-april-saam21/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=5-things-you-can-do-this-april-saam21 Wed, 31 Mar 2021 15:38:19 +0000 http://box5855.temp.domains/~katbrohe/CIS/?p=4344 Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month is right around the corner! You can make a difference by joining with RAINN this April in the fight to end sexual violence. More than a quarter of a million people are sexually assaulted each year in the U.S, but you have the power to make a difference:

1. Reach Out to a Loved One. It’s never too late to let a survivor in your life know that you care. Learn some simple tips about how to be there. The National Sexual Assault Hotline can also provide you and your loved one with confidential help, 24/7: 1-800-656-HOPE and online.rainn.org

2. Make Your Voice Heard. Congress needs to hear from you about your support for legislation to improve the criminal justice system, support survivors and bring sexual predators to justice. Visit the RAINN Action Center and contact your Member of Congress about legislation that is important to survivors, like renewing the Debbie Smith Act. It could be as easy as tweeting with @RAINN #ActWithRAINN.

3. Volunteer. Looking to donate your time? There are so many ways you can get involved in your community: Volunteer for your local rape crisis center or the Online Hotline or get involved on your campus.

4. Get Social. With a “share” or “RT” you can educate your networks about sexual violence prevention and recovery! Stay tuned to RAINN’s social media for content that we’ll be sharing all month long about how you can make a difference: FacebookTwitterInstagramYouTube and Pinterest. Tag your posts with #SAAM to follow the conversation.

5. Join the #Speak4RAINN15 campaign. You can help survivors by sharing about the 15th anniversary of “Speak,” the acclaimed novel by Laurie Halse Anderson. Bookstores will offer incentives and participants can win prizes. Learn more here.

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2 Pandemics,1 Critical Message

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Talking To Your Children About Domestic Violence During COVID-19

While our society continues to fight the ongoing battle against COVID-19, there is still the continuous struggle in taking a stand against another pandemic: Domestic Violence and Abuse. October is recognized as Domestic Violence Awareness Month- but this simply cannot be limited to just these 31 days alone. Especially now that we all are finding new ways to adapt to different levels of living, working, and learning for the time being. We need to take the time to explain to our children not just the importance of public safety, but personal, situational safety.

Dedicate time to sit down with your kids and ask them important questions like, “Do you know what the word “consent” means?” or “Have you seen or experienced anything recently that you’re afraid to talk about?”. Kids don’t like to be lectured, so make your conversations open and personable. They’re more likely to understand and respond to your questions and concerns if they feel that you want to discuss rather than preach. Some topics are hard to question, and when it comes down to facts- there’s no sugar-coating things, but children interpret life differently. Be honest, be sincere, and just be there for them. 

One of the growing concerns right now for advocates against Domestic Violence in 2020, is that the repercussions of the pandemic might be preventing people from seeking out help and crucial resources. This is another reason why it’s important to talk with your children early on about these difficult subjects. Teaching children about signs, advocacy, and awareness is not only good for their well-being, but it may also help benefit someone else. Children, especially at a young age, are very prone to pay more attention to the actions of others. Educate them that if they see something that looks wrong then it is up to them to tell a responsible adult about that situation. Their recognition just may save a life, all because they knew what to do and when to do it.

The opportunity here is to recognize that while we may be taking extra precautions to stop the spread of COVID-19, violence and abuse never takes a break. We’re spending more time at home- which can be dangerous on its own- and our children deserve to be taught, and have their voice heard when they feel uncomfortable. Talk and Listen! Be their shining light during the pandemic, because the best weapon we have right now to fight both pandemics is HOPE.

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Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-464-8340

Office Address:
1014 North Elm Street
Ottumwa, IA 52501
Office Phone:
641-683-1750

For sexual abuse civil protective orders contact Crisis Intervention Services
Sexual Assault Crisis Line 1-800-270-1620

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Oskaloosa, IA 52595
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What is a civil protective order?

It’s a document issued by a court to help you protect yourself from someone who is abusing or harassing you. 

What can a civil protective order do?

Every state is different, but in many places, a protective order can require an abuser to:

  • Stay away from you at home, at work and anywhere you go. A protective order can also prohibit the abuser from contacting you by phone, fax, mail, email or through another person.

  • Move out if you live together. You can ask that a law enforcement officer be on the scene when the abuser collects their belongings to ensure your safety.

  • Give you temporary custody of your children. This generally lasts until the court makes a final decision about custody. 

But a protective order can’t guarantee your safety.

An abuser can be arrested for violating the order, but it is not always possible to prevent a violation.

My partner and I are a same-sex couple. Can I still get a civil protective order?

Yes. In Iowa, individuals qualify for a civil protective order if they are married, divorced, or lived together at the time of the assault, or have lived together within one year before the assault occurred, or in an intimate relationship (significant romantic involvement that does not have to include sexual involvement).

Who can file for a sexual abuse civil protective order?

An adult seeking civil protection for himself or herself, or an adult seeking protection on behalf of their child who is under the age of 18, or an adult seeking protection on behalf of a ward. You or the person you’re seeking protection from must live in Iowa.  

How do I get a civil protective order?

For domestic violence civil protective orders contact our Sister Program: Rural Domestic Abuse Program 

Advocates can answer questions like:

  • What a protective order can and can’t do for you.

  • What procedure to follow for getting a protective order in your area.

  • Where and how to fill out the forms to file.

  • An advocate can help you collect and provide details of the abusive treatment you suffered.

  • After the order is filed you will have a hearing, an advocate can be present to support you through the court process.

What happens next?

The abuser is served a copy of the petition for the protective order. The court will schedule a hearing and order law enforcement to deliver the protective order and hearing date to the Defendant. The hearing will be held in 5 – 15 days after you submit your petition to the Clerk of Court.

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Safe Surfing

Remain anonymous. You don’t want to give out your private information online. This can include, full name, address, social security number, passwords, etc.  Most companies know how sensitive this information is and will not ask you to provide this information online. If a company asks you to provide your personal information online it is a red flag that they may not be credible.

Many web experts suggest that you keep online relationships just that, online. But if you plan to meet someone online in person for the first time there are some precautions you can take. Meet in a public place, tell someone close to you where you will be and when you plan to return and have a safety plan to leave if things become dangerous or uncomfortable. Remember, just because someone presents themselves one way online, doesn’t mean that the same is true in real life.

Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying refers to cruel, harassing, threatening or bullying messages sent to you online or via apps. These messages might be from people you know or complete strangers. They can be bothersome and, in some cases, even frightening.

ConnectSafetly.org has some great tips to remember when dealing with cyberbullying: 

1. Know that it’s not your fault. If someone is repeatedly cruel to you, that is bullying and you should not blame yourself. You do not deserve to be treated cruelly. 

2. Don’t respond or retaliate. Sometimes a reaction is exactly what aggressors are looking for because they think it gives them power over you. Don’t empower a bully by responding. As for retaliating, getting back at the bully by turning into one really doesn’t solve the problem and can result in escalation. If you can, remove yourself from the situation, thereby taking back your power. 

3. Save the evidence. The good news is that bullying online or on phones can be captured, saved, and shown to someone that can help. You can save that evidence in case things escalate (visit ConnectSafetly.org/cyberbullying for instructions on how to capture screens on phones and computers). 

4. Tell the person to stop. This is your choice. Don’t do it if you don’t feel completely comfortable doing so. Make your position clear: you will not stand for this treatment anymore. You may need to practice beforehand a bit with someone you trust. 

5. Reach out for help – especially if the behavior is really getting to you. You deserve backup. See if there is someone who can listen, help you process what is going on, and help you work through it. 

6. Use available tech tools. Most social media apps and services allow you to block the person. Whether the harassment is in an app, texting, comments or tagged photos, you can block the person in whatever service or device they are using. You can also report the problem to the service. If you are getting threats of physical harm, you should consider reporting it to your local authorities. 

7. Protect your accounts. Don’t share your passwords with anyone and password protect your phone so that you can’t be impersonated.

Spam and Unknown Files

Abusers can use the Internet to harass their victims. Not just to send messages but also by adding the victim to spam lists. Spam messages are annoying and frustrating.  But spam blockers are available that can help keep your inbox from getting clogged.

As a general Internet safety rule, if you don’t recognize the sender of a document, link or file, don’t open it. Opening and/or downloading it can cause viruses or other harmful programs to be installed on your device.

Mobile Phone Safety

Share with care. Use the same considerations when posting things from your phone as you would from your computer. Once posted, text, photos, and video are tough to remove. They can be copied, saved and pasted elsewhere, and are pretty much on the Internet forever. Be aware of people randomly taking pictures in public places and gatherings. You have the right to let them know that you do not wish to have your picture taken and do not want to be tagged in their social-network photos.

Know what your apps know. Pay attention to any permissions apps request as you install them. If an app asks permission to access your contact list, location, camera, call log, microphone or messages consider if the app really needs the information to work. When in doubt, consider withholding permission or not using that app.

Share location carefully. Many social apps now come with the option to share your location. If you choose to share your location make sure your privacy settings are set so that only those who know you in person can see where you are.

Texting and Sexting

Don’t text and drive. Texting while driving can significantly increase the risk of a crash or near-crash. Don’t try to text or navigate your phone while driving. Pull over if you need to use your phone or use a hands free device.  Remember no text is worth death or serious injury. It can wait.

If you take or send nude photos of yourself or others with your phone you must make sure that you trust the person you are sending them to will not share it with others without your permission. Even if you are using an app that claims that the picture disappears, it can always be saved via a screenshot. Also consider that your phone may be lost, which could enable others to view your photos without your permission.

Remember, you don’t have to give in to pressure when someone asks you to send a nude photo. If finding the words to tell that person no is difficult the “Send This Instead” app can help you get your message across. (http://sendthisinstead.com/).

Warning: If you are receiving, saving or forwarding nude photos of an individual who is not 18 years of age or above you could be charged with the possession or distribution of child pornography. When in doubt stop receiving and delete.

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